Wednesday, 13 April 2011

Don't be a Fashion Control Freak!

What is a Control Freak?

control freak is a derogatory term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done

So a fashion control freak

A Foxydy term for a person who has to constantly dictate what they wear to ensure people see them in a certain way. 

When i watch fashion TV shows and movies, i find that the media constantly portrays women as having to look perfect all the time. How stressful

What is it about the fashion world that makes women constantly believe that what they wear is the most important thing? I have friends who are such fashion control freaks, they don't allow people to see them unless they are dressed perfectly up to their standards. So basically, goodbye spontaneity

It doesnt matter what you wear. It isnt the most important thing at all. Its who you are and who you want to be. So quit worrying!! Dont be a control freak!! 

Below are things that i have told myself in the past not to worry about! 

1. its okay for people to see you without make up

Ladies, we weren't born with make up (no matter how heavenly that mascara makes your eyes look). And everyone knows that you weren't. There really isn't any point in trying to always having make up on before meeting people.  Its just un-necessary. 

Feeling comfortable in your own skin is the greatest beauty. 

2. its okay not to get a wax sometimes

Don't constantly fret about the hair on your body. Truth be told, most people don't even notice these things as much as you think they do. 

Of course, if you do have excessive body hair, then get it removed. But only if you want to. Don't let people pressure you into these things. Trust me, hair removal is a painful process. So if you don't want to do it, but are getting that wax to please someone else, don't do it. 

3. its okay not to wear heels

Contrary to popular belief, you DO NOT have to live in heels to be fashionable. I think i have preached enough on this topic. 

4. its okay to thrown on your comfy/fugly sweatpants/top/etc, etc

I have teddy bear pajamas. No kidding. Ive had them for the longest time. During the time when i was living with the ex, i always wanted to go to sleep wearing something that at least look stylish. that was me being a fashion control freak. 

But then i realized, i really missed my teddy bear pajamas, and one day, i just wore them to bed. After a whole lot of laughing and telling me how cute i was, i finally got over the fear that, if i wore something as horrendous as my pajamas, he would instantly be repulsed by me. Honestly, i think he loved me more for it. ;)

5. its okay to wear the same thing twice, with the same people

When i stand in front of my closet, i sometimes fret about what these bunch of friends have seen me in before.  I wont lie.Friends do remember what you have worn. Especially if they are girlfriends. But the important thing to remember is, they don't judge you for it. True friends don't care if you're wearing the same thing everyday! They only make a note of it. And after seeing you wearing the same thing 5 times in a row, they may suggest a shopping trip ;)

So take it from a recovering fashion control freak ladies, life is much better when you just let it be. 

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