Dress to Impress

The secret to dressing to impress?

Make sure you're the one who's impressed!

Everyone has their own taste in clothes and style.

Some like it bright, 

Some like it dark, 

Some like it short,

Others long, 

Some tall, 

Some flat,

Some eccentric,

Some just weird (hey, who am I to judge),

you get the idea.

My point is, if you want to impress someone else, stop second guessing youself wondering what they like or might find attractive. Put on something that makes you wink at yourself in the mirror and say " OH YEAH!" and most likely, anyone else near you would be thinking/saying just that!!

If you are wearing something that makes you feel good then naturally you are going to look great too! Remember, its so much sexier to watch a girl who's having fun that then girl who can't move because her feet hurt or her panties will show!!

So go ahead. IMPRESS YOURSELF and the world will follow suit. :)

Fear

Being in a difficult stage of life at the moment, I find myself thinking more and more about fear.

Its a powerful thing.

In some ways, fear is a good thing – it keeps us safe and prevents us from doing things that might harm us. It’s fear that keeps us from venturing into dangerous places and from doing things we’re not prepared for.

On the other hand, fear can prevent us from doing things that would be great for us – what if those dangerous places lead to somewhere great? Or that thing you didn't feel you were ready for was something that could have made all the difference in the world?

The one fear I have been exposed to recently is one that I find simply, Cruel.

Fear of one's self. Being afraid of who you are and what you can be. And I'm not talking about the kind I suffer from ;)

No, this is a proper fear of one's self. Fear of not knowing who you are based on the belief that you do not understand yourself well enough. Fear due to the lack of understanding. The lack of knowledge of not knowing what you want or what you need because you fear that you cannot make the right decisions. So you end up pushing things away and wandering aimlessly because you FEAR.

What a vicious cycle.

I do not know how to professionally handle these issues. But I can say this, CHOOSE. Choose to LOVE.

Choose yourself. Choose to love who you are, who ever that may be. No one ever knows what the future holds or who they will be in the future. Circumstances change all the time. But the happier people are the ones who have chosen to Love. Love themselves no matter who they are and who they turn out to be.

Deciding you no longer need to choose to be afraid always draws unto you, the solution. No one said that any path would be easy, but it is a lot easier when you like the company you are with, YOURSELF.

Now, I normally do not condone profanity on Foxydy, but in this case, it just seemed appropriate. :)

The minute you start running, your shoes will always be on.
Love, Foxydy. 

A life in Style

So recently I have been struggling with what Foxydy should be about.  It started as a fashion blog but over time I realized that it really isn't my passion to keep up with current fashion trends. What Prada, Chanel and Louis V are up to aren't exactly on my top priority list each waking moment though I do have enormous amounts of respect for people who dedicate their lives to their passion for fashion. People who create inspirations and lead markets. Somehow I have started to loose respect for the industry itself when the people who are creating Brand Labels now days are no more than a face with money to spend (most of which was generated by being ditsy on camera or a sex tape as illustrated by Mike Briggs)        

What I do enjoy though, is Style. Personal Style. Each person has a unique style sense, no matter how developed or under developed. I truly believe that Style is a product of socialization and a personal style reflects the way they have been molded and shaped by this world. The family they grew up in, the movies and songs they watched and heard, the friends, the enemies.. they all make a person who they truly are. 

And style really isn't all about what you wear. Everything that you are, everything that you do, you are consciously choosing your style. The way you talk, walk, dress, work, play... it is all about you. You make your own decisions. You pick your package. Your Style. 

So thats it. That is what this blog started off as. But perhaps it is time to revamp and truly define Foxydy. It is not a Fashion Blog, Its a Personal Style Blog. The journey I am on to find my personal style. My package.

New Beginnings

Yeap, I am back at the beginning again. I just became a "newly single lady" as a friend so eloquently put it. Funny, I don't feel as though my feelings for my ex are anything close to Lady-Like.

I have learnt so much in these past few years. I grew up in a family with parents who think the world of each other and get this, my mum wanted to be a Nun before she fell in love with my papa. How is one supposed to live up to that kind of pressure? Sheesh.

But you know, it these past few year I have learnt to question things I never thought I would. The things I have learnt to expect in a relationship, the thing I expect from a partner, the things I expect from myself.

So I feel like I'm back here again. Single. Except this time I am ready. Ready to handle this like an adult. Not serial date and drink away my sorrows. I am ready to understand that I no longer have to settle. Ready to not make the same mistakes that made me doubt myself.

I am an individual. I am a package. And a freaking awesome one at that.

Here is to a New Beginning.

The New Foxydy.

Okay, perhaps the word hiatus does not apply to me anymore. Hiatus means that I took a break. There must be a word for "I'm not sure what I'm doing anymore, and thus I shall not write what I do not believe in?" Send me a message if you have that word. I probably will be needing it a lot more. 

There have been  many changes in my life. New work, new travels, new friends (not that the old ones needed changing) new relationship (well, perhaps that did need a change ;) and all in all, a new perspective. 

My fashion blog worked for me because it was an creative outlet. I love writing and  love clothes. Seemed like a no brainier at that time. I didn't expect my value systems to come in the way. 

So with all due respect, I shall clearly declare. I am not a fashion blogger. I love clothes. On people. Not models. Real people. I completely respect those who have given their lives to fashion and shall leave the fashion writing to the professionals. 

I don't really have a plan for the new Foxydy.  I do know that writing to me is an outlet, and if at some point, my writing entertains or helps someone, then that's great. But this time, I'm writing for me. 

Top 10 Most Recent Disaster Fashion Trends

Credits : Yenajeon, Hubpages.

Looking back from the year 2000 to now, there have been SO many bad fashion trends and mistakes that it was almost impossible to pinpoint just 10. However, I forced myself to select the 10 most atrocious and popular fashion trends of this decade.

While browsing through and you discover you have been or still are a victim of one or more of these fashion DO NOTS, don't be offended! These mistakes can happen to all good people, even for self-proclaimed fashionistas (#2*Cough Cough). Besides, you can always discard your fashion offenders and pretend it all never happened after this day.

So sit back and relax with a bowl of popcorn and get ready to cringe, cry, laugh histerically, gasp and reminisce on the worst fashion trends of the decade!

1. Crocs

Number one is crocs. Oh where oh where to even begin. Let us first recognize that in this day and age of Dolce & Gabbana, Chanel, cloning, ipods and self-cleaning robots, creating a fashion-forward shoe should not be so difficult. However, these immensely popular 'shoes' as some would call them, are simply unsightly chunks of rubber with some breathing holes on top.

What is even worse is the image it has projected unto other countires. My French and Asian friends facebooking me with 'Are those Croc things really the latest fashion over there in America?!' to which I responded with 'No. Its a nasty rumor being spread around by fascists hiding out in this country.'

Simply stated: For the sake of this nation's national image and integrity - No More Crocs!

2. Juicy Tracksuits

Juicy Tracksuits are an interesting phenomenon actually. This is how I honestly believe it became popular: A few unlucky women purchased it in thinking of comfort and men noticed. They noticed obviously from staring at the letters on any passerby's butt. The fact that the pants are fairly form fitting and have bold letters jumping off of them, forces people to look. As the male appeal began to grow, the women were just dying to have them. These 'butt' pants were flying off the shelves! What an easy way to grab any man's attention.

Now, focusing on the 'fashion' aspect. These are a major NO. The fact that most women's behinds are not made to be stuffed into some small polyester-spandex pants are just one aspect of why. They are tacky all the way, and no man in search of a classy woman would dare think of you as 'take home to mama material!

3. Ponchos

This one is completely self-explanatory. In what situation would a poncho be deemed acceptable or even warranted?

Hmm, without being a stereotypical a-hole and saying 'rodeo', there are NONE. Wearing a poncho at the beach? NO. Wearing one to an office meeting? NO. Wearing one to a party? NO.

See, there is no such need to wear a poncho. Just say NO!

4. Celebrity Clothing Lines

For this particular fashion offense, I refer to specific individuals. I appreciate some famous celebs who honestly have a love and knowledge of fashion who want to create their own lines. However, these very select few are now accompanied by every celeb in Hollywood.

Its hard to even name a female celebrity who doesn't have a fashion label. Since when did celebrity, model, actress and singer become synonymous with designer?

5. Iconic Nerd Glasses

This is one of the more recent fashion trends I do not understand. If you truly are a nerd/geek and want to display it, can't you just be yourself and sprout off mathematical algorithms and admit to playing dungeons and dragons? Why are random rappers and actors who probably do not interact with these so called 'nerds' sporting the look?

Its just interesting to wonder what kind of statement they are trying to make.

6. Hobo Chic?

In my mind, there is no argument that the word 'hobo' and 'chic' will never fit together because that would be a contradiction or double negative. (As one who almost became an English major, double negatives are THE ultimate NO in academia.) There is nothing chic about fashion that is trying to represent homelessness. For homeless people, their state of financial being is a serious matter. They do not purposefully want to dress ragged and worn. I feel as if this fashion trend is almost a mockery of those who have no other choice but to wear 'hobo fashions.'

7. Jumpsuits

Why oh why? Jumpsuits are for toddles only. Jumpsuits are great for parents of babies or little children because its a one piece that is easy to put on and take off without worrying about matching or oufit-picking. Jumpsuits for everyday women and men? No.

In addition, in the haute couture world, jumpsuits have also sprung up. This is a very miniscule exception. These models are about 6'2" and weigh 115 lbs. Obviously if the cut is chic enough they will maybe be able to pull it off. Are we very skinny giants? NO

8. Ed Hardy

Oh, Christian Audigier. In my opinion, Mr. Audigier is a fine designer. However, tattoo patterns everywhere? Please no. What would it even be called? Biker Chic? Tattoo Couture?

What's even worse is that Ed Hardy is now synonymous with Jon Gosselin, which of course in something no one wants to be associated with!

Leave tattoo art for your skin only please.

9. Platform Flipflops

The platform flip flop popped into US mass culture in the 90's, and unfortunately made it through the 2000's. What is there to say about a large wedge of styrofoam block. (Yes, I know, its not actually styrofoam) Is this a necessary fashion item? Why did this even come about? It makes women look very thick and unflattering. It does not give an illusion of height, which is what women assumed.

Lets hope that we do not see a single Platform flipflop in the coming decade!

10. Tights as Pants

Lets get this straight ladies and ladies: Tights are NOT pants. Leggings are also NOT pants for that matter. Tights and leggings are very fashionable and sexy when worn UNDERNEATH pants, dresses and skirts. Once again ladies, when wearing tights, its best NOT to ask a man's opinion on it. They will always tell you that tights are pants.

When wearing tights as pants, everyone can see everything! For those women who love wearing them despite this 100% fact, then more power to you, but consider this: Why not become a stripper who shows off everything? All men are starring at your *parts* in either scenario, and the only difference is, by being a stripper, you can make TONS of money!

Looking back at the 10 biggest fashion atrocities of this decade, we can see our mistakes and learn from them.

Being FEMALE in a Man's world.

I met up with a friend recently who was complaining that all her law firm allowed her to wear was strict office attire. And due to religious reasons, that means she could only wear pant suits. Her firm consists of 80% men and she is convinced, wearing anything remotely female looking would just make them look down on her. It already didn't help the situation that she is the youngest female member of her law firm. 

This got me thinking. I'm very often (for some reason), in conversation with people who think that the way they dress does not say anything about them. I completely disagree. While i do not think it is a statement of fact; what you wear is who you are, i do not think that your true personality and what you select to cloth yourself in are completely mutually exclusive. 

But i digress. As usual. Back to my friend. She was asking me for tips on how she can "girl" up her dressing in an office where they seem to want everyone to look like men. In her words exactly:

"i dont want to break the rules sasha. But i don't mind playing around them. I want to still feel pretty lah ;)"

This one is for you Ann-ies :)

1. Wear Makeup

Even if you wear wearing a potato sack, you can still put on some bright eye shadow or some girl lip stick to add some color and  definition to your feminine features. Don't pile on the make up to over compensate. Just define your features and pick some neutral colors that blend in. Your objective is to look feminine and intelligent. Not like a raccoon that just rolled out of a bin.

 

2. Clinch at the waist

Your office might make you wear pant suits, but there is no reason not to show a hint of a figure. Ladies, our greatest assets are our curves. Even if they are covered up, just a hint of them is enough to get people interested. Make sure your pant suits, jackets, tops are well cut. Use funky belts to clinch at the waist to give illusions of a smaller waist. 

3. Accessorize

Throw on an awesome pair of earrings. Or a statement necklace. By accessorizing your look, you are screaming to the world "look at me. i'm a girl. and i take pride in the way i look" Trust me ladies. Bosses love people to dress well. You are a representation of your company. When bosses see a well dressed lady, they immediately give her more respect compared to someone who looks like they just walked out of their bedroom. 

One caution with this would be to not wear any accessory that is too distracting; such as a long clanking bracelet when you type on your keyboard. Then its no longer fashion. Its a job hazard. 

4. Get an awesome haircut

Hair is one of the most sensual parts of a woman. Get an awesome haircut that makes you feel sexy and you will naturally radiate the same feeling to other around you. 

5. Wear strong sensual perfume

People very often underestimate the power of the sense of smell. Pick a strong sensual perfume which you associate with power. Make sure the perfume is not over bearing. You do not want your colleges walking around you holding their breath. What you want is undertones of your perfume to hit them. Think about it. You always want to be around something that smells real good don't you? That's how your boss will feel as well. :)

Happy being a Girl!! :)